While part of me worries that I’m boring everyone with all these updates, the other part of me thinks that the experience is important enough to share.
It was such a rewarding day today and I hope you’ll give me a few minutes of your time for the recap. It’s pretty darn cool…and there was a wonderful cathartic surprise at the end of it all.
If you don’t know the history behind my Sweet Dreams Fund, check it out, it’s a good thing.
Basically, what I do is raise funds so we can purchase pillows, pillowcases, crayons, coloring books, and teddy bears. We then donate these “Goodnight Sleep Kits” to domestic violence shelters for when women and children arrive. I can’t imagine how difficult it is for these women to seek help, and the concept is to make their arrival, and their children’s arrival, a little less traumatic.
There are so many women and children who seek a safe haven because of fear, abuse, or worse, and it pains me to know that for every woman who bravely makes the decision to leave an abusive relationship, there are many others who are unable to do the same.
Today, a group of volunteers from Christian Brothers Academy in Syracuse, New York pitched in to assemble nearly 200 Goodnight Sleep Kits for area shelters. What started as a simple fundraiser blossomed into a generous outpouring of support and I’m so motivated to try and take this to the next level.
I thank everyone who graciously donated money, everyone who selflessly donated time, and everyone who extended their well wishes, kudos, and prayers along the way. I thank the pillow manufacturer who allowed me to pick up the pillows, rather than ship them, because today wouldn’t have happened otherwise. I thank the volunteers and directors at the shelters who devote and sacrifice so much to give women and children a safe escape, room to breathe, and the opportunity for a fresh start. And I thank all of you for supporting my mission by way of supporting my blog.
We arrived at the school this morning with two car loads of pillows, coloring books, crayons, teddy bears, and bags. The team of volunteers immediately went to work and set up stations to create an assembly line that would have made Henry Ford proud.
The Pillow Station! How many heads will these comfort?
The Color Station! How much of a mental escape will these provide?
The Bear Station! How many hugs will they receive? How many tears will they dry?
Every bag received a pillow, pillowcase, box of crayons, coloring book, and teddy bear.
Everyone pitched in. Even the youngest of the crew.
Her assembly was slower than slow but she was every bit as proud to do it.
The view from a child's eyes.
Nearly 200 Goodnight Sleep Kits lined the walls!
One of four big batches ready for delivery!
Four different shelters received Goodnight Sleep Kits, including the Salvation Army Emergency Shelter, the Dorothy Day House, the Vera House, and the YWCA. As silly as it may sound, it was actually pretty emotional to watch the shuttle vans fill up with the kits. Knowing that dozens upon dozens of women and children would find comfort in them was just so fulfilling.
My lovely wife in domestic violence purple loading one of the vans.
Just one of the shuttles...ready for its delivery mission!
One after another, the shuttles departed for area shelters, and each recipient was so thankful to all you. Particularly rewarding, but also depressing, was a tour we were given by one of the shelters. We saw small rooms, no larger than my dorm room in college, with rickety metal bunk beds that housed four women and sometimes a crib. We saw women who were either too shy, too embarrassed, or too scared to look up at us. We saw children, one only months old, playing in a safe but foreign environment. And we saw the housing numbers which indicated that more than 40 women sought shelter within their walls each and every night.
But we also saw the outreach that these women receive. We saw the kitchen, dining area, and playrooms where women in similar situations can interact and find strength in each other. We saw volunteers and employees doing their best to find permanent housing, job opportunities, and personal independence for all of the women in their care. And we saw just how important it is that these shelters continue to receive support from the community…in both cash and kind.
Such lovely people devoting their lives to such a wonderful cause.
Even our 15-year old, who has an impenetrable facade, was self-motivated to help.
In the end, we delivered nearly 200 kits to four area shelters. We also set aside several dozen boxes of crayons, coloring books, and teddy bears for the students of CBA to take with them when they donate their time to local daycare centers and hospitals.
The Sweet Dreams Fund was born out of tragedy. When my wife’s aunt and her cousin Marci’s two children were thoughtlessly murdered at the hands of Marci’s abusive ex-husband, I felt compelled to do something, anything, to sprout something positive from something so evil. Today was another culmination of that commitment.
Today's Sweet Dreams troops!
Seeing my wife and her father (who lost his sister that night) embrace with tears over what we all accomplished today was beyond touching. Even more powerful was getting word right in the middle of the Sweet Dreams assembly that her cousin Marci had just given birth to a little baby girl, who they named Ella Margaret.
Like I said, today was such a rewarding day, and it made every single mile traveled over the past three days worth every inch. My only regret? That I couldn’t do more. But, God willing, that will change.
Next week I’ll be introducing a brand new way for people to support the Sweet Dreams Fund. I hope you won’t tune me out. I promise to return to my regularly scheduled goofiness. It’s just important that I embrace the fact that this blog exists because of my commitment to this mission.
As I say in my header, I’m a ‘blabbermouth with a purpose.’
And this…
…is that purpose.
Thank you for enduring all of my updates, thank you for your support, and thank you for spreading the word.
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Greg,
You continue to be an incredible inspiration. God Bless you and Your family. A true testament to the memory of your loved ones who were lost when a family can turn tragedy into triumph and inspiration and help so many in need. You’re doing good work.
I know that I have said this before but you are amazing. I have tears in my eyes.
Such an incredible story. What a great day all around for your family.
Amazing job! You can tell a lot of love went into those kits and was nice to see all of the people who helped.
You should be so proud of your entire crew for the hard work they did. I’m especially pleased that your children are involved. All children should understand compassion at a young age. Our world were be so much better if it were so.
You and your family have a truly inspiring dedication to bringing comfort that is so vitally needed to families in crisis. Bless you all!
That’s AWESOME, Mr. Awesome. To do something so cool in memory of Macy, James IV and Margaret…inspiring. And Marci had a baby yesterday! How serendipitous was that timing?
You are good peeps, Greg. Your whole family is included in that statement.
Have you ever thought of doing something like this for homeless shelters as well? I’m sure most of those kids have nothing comforting with them either. Just a thought.
Sounds like a very great adventure that turned out equally successful. This was a fun read and wonderful to see that the whole family was involved. Awesome, Mr. Awesome.
@Shan, I’d love to do it for everyone but my resources, especially with how little reach I currently have, are limited. The reason I chose domestic violence shelters is because of what transpired with my wife’s family. Certainly not a case of my not thinking the homeless shelters are any less deserving or desperate for help. That said, two of the shelters we donated to do house homeless women, not just the abused. Believe me, I wish I had the reach to do this every day in every city, but I’m happy that I can at least do it in one.
Fabulous!!! So glad it all worked out. You are doing an amazing thing. I’ve done a few projects with a simular place in Tampa and went to the actual facility to deliver much needed crib/baby items. It is an eye opener to see it first hand and tugs at your heart. Congrats on a wonderfully successful delivery. I’m sure there are no words to describe how thankful the recipients are.
Greg,
Not boring in the least. Inspirational.
Looks as if you are the one who deserves the thanks!
Not boring at all. You and your family are doing something that is truly awesome! There needs to be more people so passionate for a cause like you and your family are.
That’s such a great cause. I’m so glad you’re fighting for Margaret, Macy and James IV’s memory.
This is such an amazing cause and I’m sure it’s such a reward to see first hand the people you’re helping. It’s a wonderful way to remember your family members. Please keep us updated on your progress!
you’re a good egg! I love you ( and the gang) to bits
To my dearest Heather, Greg, Andrew, Michael, and Karmyn,
It’s difficult to type a reply because my eyes are clouded with tears. And my heart is swelling with pride that you all worked so hard on making 200 women and children have something of their own since many arrive at shelters with only the clothes on their backs. But they are atleast safe and are with others who are feeling such unbeleivable pain. I wish I could take a modicum of credit for raising such a woderful son who in turn married the most loving and intelligent wife. Your love and devotion to each other has spread to your children who will never forget that there are so many in need, and there is always something one can do to help. The day that this evil tragedy happened to your aunt and cousins, Heather, I will never forget the phone call from your grandmother informing you of their horrible deaths and how you collapsed in tears and agony. How I wished I could take away your pain. All I could do was take care of Michael and Kamryn and hold you as tightly as I dared. There has to be something we can do here in Texas. Let us know. And hopefully there are other around the country who could contribute, thru time and/or money, to Sweet Dreasms. Dad and I will try from here. Love to All
I would like to help you extend your reach a bit! I live centrally between Boston and Providence and would love to help you expand this amazing cause. I have no experience but willl be willing to donate my time and efforts. Please email me if you think this is something you might be interested in. I just popped over from the bloggess today by chance for the first time and am so inspired to do something. I feel like i was meant to see this and have an almost uncontrolable urge to do something.
Absolutely gorgeous. I’ve worked in a few DV shelters and for DV/rape crisis coalitions, and this type of support is essential for sustainability. Even more importantly, though, a fresh pillow, a soft toy — those kindnesses are also incredibly healing. I promise you the women are emboldened knowing someone was thinking about them and their children. Beautiful. Thank you for sharing this project.